Can you confirm that you have read DR? How many times?
If you have then take Sandi guidelines to heart and practice them.
This is about doing what works.
You also mentioned that you went gambling, from personal experience I can tell you that this type of behaviour causes enormous damage, even if it does not become compulsive. If it is A factor then consider a12 step program for managing this. There may be other indicators, such as extreme clutter and the willingness to control W behaviour, and inconsistency in hobbies and projects.
Caveat here, I only see what you write but if there is an issue then extra counselling will be needed to resolve this for YOU. Not for W or for your M but for YOU. It is worthwhile to consider discussing this with your next counsellor. As you can see from my sitch I am active in GAManon, so I have a little experience but I have only experience and am not a counsellor. In GAanon we learn that gambling is just one expression of compulsion (can be called hyper focus ADD and ADHD) the downside when withdrawing can also be depression. I would actively encourage you to discount this as a factor in your own case; and you can start with reading. But no-one here has instant solutions, only you can change you.
This is a long journey. Thoughtful Vanilla
Last edited by Vanilla; 12/02/1411:42 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
