...Then she added "All of those hurtful things that I said to you I only said it out of anger, I didnt really mean it..." But then she brings back the same old story and start arguing and I just listen.
I had to move out from our old place because... after paying all the bills, I had a cushion of $25 per month!! So I moved out to a cheaper apartment.
She is a great person, but I think I cannot understand how she felt about this whole situation. Maybe I failed to protect her heart from the circumstances. Maybe I am too immature for a lifetime commitment. I don't know yet. One thing is for sure; I love her with all of my heart.
Repeat after me, its not all your fault. Its not all your fault. It takes two to make a marriage really work. Often it only takes one to destroy a marriage.
Your commitment, your protecting her heart are ways you are trying to shoulder more of the blame than you deserve.
If she complements you, says she made a mistake and then starts down the same old road of rants, she is the one that is immature, not you.
You need to work on your GAL, become the best most fascinating man she has ever seen, one who her girfriends want to know if she is through with you so they can date you. One that she knows on everylevel is a keeper she let go and regretes doing so.
When that happens, if you as a mature integrated man approach her, she will respect you and treat you with respect and try to earn your love, or she just isn't mature enough to know what she had.
Good luck to you. The Holiday season is rough.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
