I wanted to share that my H still has no concept of the time that passed during MLC. Even now, he recollects things either way too long by years, or way too short. I've gotten used to this and don't really try to correct him.
Its really true they lose their sense of time passing.
Last night, I read aloud to my H this quote from the National Assoc. of Realtors:
"The Atlantic has an interesting article on the real drop in contentment seen across cultures by those in their 40s, AKA the Midlife Crisis. Contentment turns out be U-shaped, dropping though your 20s and 30s as most of us fail to live up to our high expectations and dreams and rising in our 50s as we outperform our now less exalted goals. Overall happiness actually continues to rise as we age through our golden years. It’s a bit long, but worth a read, especially if you’re Gen X and are going through a slump."
I asked H if that rang true for him. Was MLC a result of dream and goal failure?
He said there was some amount of "if I don't do it now, it will never happen in my life". But he mostly looked at my blankly,
Then he said that he was so much more content than last year, than the year before that as well. And he couldn't imagine getting into his 50's and being so content, but he believed it could happen. He said, he especially believed there was happiness in his future, as he never foresaw that he could get out of his MLC depression.
I asked him if he was happy now. He doesn't use the term "happy", he uses the term "content". And he acts that way.
I'm so encouraged, FY, you have been able to continue to wait for W. It sounds so positive that she is slowly moving towards this "contentment".
And funny story about the humidity!!!!
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
