I am new to the board, and read your thread. I can hear/see the hurt you are going through. It is good to set goals, especially for yourself. As that is all you can really control. You know this, as I saw it in your thread. Therefore, him crossing the boundary is very disrespectful, but not something you can control. How are you doing with performing a 180? Focusing on you and detaching?
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015