Claire, it's hard to step back and let H figure out his way of putting and down but you're doing it! It was hard for me at first but after some time my H really grew into his role as a father and figured a lot of stuff out. It didn't come easily or naturally but he got there and now I am amazed at his fathering abilities.
I didn't make him into a better dad, he did that all himself, but he couldn't have done it if I didn't get out of the way.
One of the best things I could do. When I did it, my intention was for him to see just how hard it is to handle D all alone... And he did but more importantly I learned what a control freak I was for so long about things with D. Part of me says I was a control freak out of necessity because he wasn't involved and didn't give a chit but the reality is, it takes two to tango. I got out if the way and he stepped up to the plate.
It's one of the things I'm most proud of us for during this separation. It's huge!!
