I actually read the interaction completely the other way.
It sounded to me like W was going about her business, she decided she wanted this and not that, and didn't much care if you were inconvenienced. And when you asked her to help after she dropped them off (because she "wants Sundays") she said she didn't want to "hang around".
Presumably because you're there?
However, twin mom has a really good point about you asking her if she was "prepared".
It could sound like you're insinuating that she doesn't have a handle on things, when I think you were just trying to make sure the lunches were covered.
You might review that convo and see where the truth lies.
I might have phrased it differently. "Please let me know if I will need to get their lunches ready on Monday morning." That sounds reasonable and doesn't imply she might drop the ball. Plus, it gives you some notice to take care of getting the children fed.
Jefe, PLAN on her dropping the ball. YOU make sure to be prepared so you don't get caught short. That way you don't get angry at her for letting you down while you continue to get things done. ----------------------------------------------------------------
No. It's not fair. But unfortunately, you sort of have to act like a single father right now. She's not going to be as responsible as you'd like, and you're going to have to pick up more of the slack. It's what happens. Most of our WAS don't get awards for "Parent of the Year" while they're in whatever fantasy-land they're living in.
So you plan on doing it. Only because if she doesn't do it, someone has to.
