Hey SS! Love your post. Just shows you're in a good spot overall. Doesn't mean you don't suffer, but your overall outlook seems really positive and I'd even say inspirational.

One thing I wanted to share about being a good mom and having him involved with your D. I just talked on the phone with my mom. I have frequent calls with her and my dad. WAY more post BD because I've been on my own and needed support. One thing I told her was THANK YOU!

See, as you can see from my last post, I've lost faith in spouses (at this moment). But I realized that my mom and dad were always there for me. In my mind I found myself saying "at least parental love is real and lasting in this world". Then I immediately realized that many children don't have the love of their parents, and I felt truly blessed. I also felt more determined than ever to be there for my children so they could say the same things.

You're doing that every day and by managing your sitch you're setting a foundation that will make it much better for your kids. Maybe they won't be LBS's but some type of difficulty will come their way. Scary but true. As I type this I'm next to a man in a wheelchair and I asked myself if I'd trade my ability to walk for a good M. Rambling now but point is pain is everywhere. But at least your kids will believe in your love. Good job!


Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15