My last thread was my growth booster. I'm hoping this thread is where I get my wings.
Things are going well. H has been so involved with and, supporting me and being there to help me out when I'm working, took the lead when D lost her first tooth and wrote a letter to her from the tooth fairy, sprinkled money with glitter... Really stuff that would all fall on my pre BD. I'm so grateful for his involvement and the feeling that I have a parenting partner that I've not has since D was born.
His parental involvement, at this point, is more important to me than our marriage. It almost feels indulgent to hope for him to be a super involved father AND an engaged and loving husband. I'll take whatever I can get and hope he feels I've met his changes on my end, too.
I can see some regrets in his eyes and I think he's surprised I'm moving on as well as I am.
I've been behind this month with all the photo sessions and working at a Banana not to mention carting D around all over the place to her various extracurriculars... I paid the bills late (three days, eeek!!) and let the account become overdrawn. H let me know and wasn't angry or pushy or condescending about it. I transferred money immediately and paid the bills this morning. I texted him to let him know and he said, "thanks! Just let me know if you need any help or need me to take the bills over. That's not snarky at all, I just want to help where I can."
