BB - So sorry to hear your having a bad time - we all know your pain, I wish I could wave a magic wand and take it away for you.
BUT having said that - by going through all that you are feeling, accepting it and allowing the process to happen, you will emerge stronger than ever - I know it does not seem possible but believe me, you will.
I would not request anything from him, he won't listen - all it will do is make him more determined, he feeds off you and your emotions - Don't Feed The Monster !!