BB, I'm so sorry you had to hear such news from your girlfriend. I know how painful that stuff is, from my own experience.
First, these early S days can be the some of the toughest. Sometimes it's not even one day at a time. Take it and hour at a time, or even one minute at a time.
It may not feel like it at the moment, but you will get through this. It will get better.
I know from your background, that you know much of this already. It is completely different when you are the one experiencing it.
The feelings of hurt, anger and embarrassment.... Completely normal and understandable.
You do know the answer is best to say nothing.
Asking him to keep himself discreet will most likely yield no positive result. If he respected your wishes right now, he wouldn't be doing what he is doing. He will not respect that request, either.
If it is MLC, he is acting from a very juvenile, selfish, entitled place. This is HIS life, and he will do what he wants. Like a teenager. He will likely rebel against any request to act as you want.
Also, the ow is truly not worth your thoughts. Do not give any energy to that. I know, it sounds easy to say, and impossible to do. BB, this is devastating stuff. Believe what everyone say here. She can't hold a candle to you. It's not about finding someone better. It's truly seeking a bandaid for pain that was there long before you. And it's true, they always always affair down.
Please be kind to yourself today. Remove any pressure of getting decorating etc. done if you don't feel up to it. Take your time, feel what you feel, and let it wash over you.
Do at least one thing for yourself today if you can possibly manage. With little ones, I know this can be a challenge. Even if it's a hot bath, or just lighting a few scented candles to change the energy. Every little bit helps.
