New & seeking advice on what to do

[DaneMom]

Feeling anxious and worried today. WAH wants to talk today about things as he put it. He called last night while I was out with a girlfriend so I did not answer. I texted back 10 min later that I was out and asked what did he need? He responded with he wanted to talk about a few things but it could wait and to have a nice time.
What has me anxious is that I had met up with him the day before so that his sister and niece, who were visiting for the holiday, could say hi and see the dog. SIL and niece were very emotional to see me and SIL whispered in my ear when she hugged me that she is sorry he is doing this to me. At end of the visit SIL asked quietly if we could stay in touch and visit regardless of what happens with WAH and me. Which I agreed to.

As I got into the car to leave WAH asked when could we talk about some financial stuff and visitation for him with the dog. I told him I'd call two days later after the weekend is over. So why is he calling in the middle of the weekend? For some reason I have a bdd feeling .... Not sure why and am trying to shake it or detach and not think about it.

In all honesty I don't want to have the conversation about visiting the dog as I am conflicted about my feelings around it.... I do know one thing though.... If I don't want him coming by on a regular basis then he is going to say that I am 'controlling' things again. Which is one of his issues with me and I am trying to work on that. But him being allowed to pop in and out to visit the dog when it fits his schedule is not okay either.