I do understand, and don't want to sound preachy. I just know you are walking a very thin line when you start the flirting games. Just b/c she has done the same behavior is not an excuse for you.
You said a word that should be treasured. "Trust". My M had complete trust from both of us, until I abused it. Our M was not A proof.
Like your W, it triggered something in me, also. I am ashame of my behavior. If my H had chosen to do likewise, I don't believe we would have made it.
Please be careful, Paul. Don't cause more trouble for yourself.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
