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[KGirl]

I spent some time today working on my grief/rebuilding work. I'm putting aside the books on relationships and Ms and all of that, and instead am reading about rebuilding when your relationship ends. What I'm reading walks you through different phases/steps and encourages you to do as much work as you can in one before going on to the next. I feel confident in saying I'm definitely past the denial stage, and have identified my fears (being unloveable, financial concerns, being alone, what will people think) and am working on embracing them and thinking about if they're really that scary. I worked mostly on the grief section today and wrote a "goodbye" letter - not only as a goodbye to H but also to the other things and dreams were lost (but hopefully will be regained one day!) The example letter also said goodbye to the negative things, so I pondered that for awhile and said goodbye to H's disloyalty and constant need to stray. I said goodbye to fantasy sports and video games, too It was good to put it out there, and then be able to put it aside. I think I've moved past the biggest hurdles and am ready for the next chapter: anger (sounds.. fun?? :S). One of the sections talked about why relationships may end, and one that struck a chord with me was the over-responsible/under-responsible dynamic, particularly when the under-responsible person feels like they're being "parented" and then has to rebel/"be free." Even though H can't tell me why for sure, that helped add some insight into what may have happened, and things to keep in mind for the future so as to not repeat this.