I'm in the same boat, Gan. No kids means no contact for the most part. He's receptive if I reach out, and we can even share a laugh or two, but I don't know if it's advisable to continually be the one to contact first.

It's so confusing, I feel you on that score.

ME: 38
BF: 40
T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice)
BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R.
10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW
12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies