Job,Shining,Georgia,Bklyn & Matt - Thank you all so much for listening and consoling and sharing your wisdom. Job is ride about the rollercoaster.

Bklyn - Thanks for your sweet words about my girls. They are very strong and I feel blessed. Hopefully they'll continue to be strong.

Matt - Enjoying D19's first turkey is amazingly cool. It was wonderful you were there and she will never forget you were there either.

Being present in your heart and mind is truly a gift for the people we love. MLC has robbed our spouses of that ability and I ache for it. Being demoted to no contact or "insert holiday here" is pretty harsh.

Here's hoping December is not so bumpy. I like what you said Shining about using our sadness as validation and our anger to propel us forward.

Thanks all for being so kind. I sure appreciate it.

M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters
BD: 5/14
Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW
D Final 9/17

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
― Maya Angelou