She said she wants to go to MC to figure out how to separate. She asked me if I would agree to the same. I said no. I asked her if she would make the appointment and she said yes. I told her do it in a couple weeks as she said she would start her IC again tomorrow.
I got a little lost here. Are you, or are you not, agreeing to go to MC if she makes the app't?
I wanted to comment on your statement about time for her mother to step in. Yes, her mom could guilt her into staying in the home. But she can do nothing to change her heart. I don't think your W would stop contacting OM just b/c her mom guilts her. She may lie and say so, but if she won't do it for her H, she won't do it for her mother. And even if she did, is that how you want her? Hating you for putting her (in her frame of mind) in the dreadful position of having to stay where she doesn't want to be.
FWIW, I agree that you should never reveal your source of intell.
Last edited by sandi2; 11/29/1409:50 PM.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
