Hi Gwen, Know that you are not alone. I spent TG with my D's (14 and 19) at my D19's apt. They both got a group text saying "Happy Thanksgiving" that went to them and the people that my W works with, her boss, etc. "Insert holiday here" is right on! Later when the turkey we cooked was done and came out looking great, I texted a picture of it to her with the caption "(D19's) first thanksgiving turkey. Happy Thanksgiving, hope it's a good one". W texted D19 back 3 words "Nice looking turkey". That's all she could be bothered with on the first holiday that we are no longer a family?
I bet that your H and my W both just can't see past themselves. They just don't get how their choices have hurt so many people, so many of those that love them most. If they stopped and realized just how much damage they are causing so many they couldn't cope, so they keep seeing themselves as the victims, us as the bad guys.
You are still so new to all this Gwen. The pain and the anger, the hurt and the missing your old life will come and go. Some days it will be raw and strong, others it will only be there in the background. Give yourself time and understand that the holidays will be a time of reminders of the past. Just keep moving forward and above all be kind to yourself. You and your D's will get through this, no matter what your H does or doesn't do. Hang in there Gwen, you will be OK!
