^^^^^^ Shining nailed it Gwen. It IS okay to be sad. Regardless of the outcome , it is a life changer. It's normal to feel sad and the holidays are just difficult in general IMHO.
Be kind to yourself. Work on the things you want to better about yourself. Focus on your kids. It does get easier. Hang in there!
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer