I know you're right. It's not that I don't understand it. It is just hard to let go. I have mostly been trying to detach. I admittedly have had a few lapses of judgement which I won't deny. I have stopped saying ILY, giving her hugs or kisses (with the exception of yesterday), and don't cuddle with her when she comes to bed. We are mostly co-parenting now and like roommates. I appreciate you framing her as "not your wife nor lover", etc. While hard to hear it gives it a new perspective. I guess I think I am starting to "get" detaching, but really need to work harder at it. I have to start watching closer as well to see what makes for positive interactions with her.
M-44 W-44 Sons- 11&14 Married- 18 Together- 27 Separation mentioned- 9-29-14 Still together, but not "together" "if you feel rotten and forgotten, remember there'll be better days."
