Am I on the right track? (3)

[GoatGal]

WMB,

Just to speak to a few things I saw earlier in your thread.

In my humble opinion, your sitch is really new. The EA/PA/discovery/D filing, all the rest.
It's been a whirlwind for you; not a lot of time to do soul-searching on your end while you're so busy reeling from the actions of your W.

As for "is it too late?" I can say that seven months ago my H's work=wife/mutual friend advised me to sign the D papers and get on with it. That he "has completely made his mind up and will never change it."

Well....as it turns out, that's not exactly the case.

It takes TIME and CONCERTED, CONSISTENT EFFORT on us LBSs' parts to SHOW them through our actions, that they were WRONG about us.

And in the interim, show ourselves that we're pretty good people too, even if we weren't always that way before.

In my case, I chose NOT to sign and return the papers. I did not have to by law, just because my H wanted it. I told him he was going to have to wait the required amount of time to prove his case because I was not about to pack up and leave my home, my animals, my life--just because he was "unhappy" and saw divorce as the only option.

That, in my mind, was his problem, not mine. I have been sitting tight and have never regretted it one bit.

So, no. It's not too late. If you don't want it to be.


---(G)GGG