I am gone for a not even a week and I find you right at the edge of the cliff where I attempted to save you from your bad self not very long ago!
Do yourself a favor. Go back and read your older thread to save us all the trouble from having to repost all the good advice we gave you the first time around.
You are REACTING from your EMOTIONS, not RESPONDING from your INTELLECT.
Use your brain, and leave the emotional melt-downs to the five year olds. We have chatted enough that I am convinced of your ability to be so much better than that. Sure. You're hurt and pissed. That's the way this whole thing goes.
Be the better man and suck it up until you can think with a clearer head. You'll be glad you did. -----------------------------------------------------------------
Is this a 2 x 4? You betcha!
I hate repeating myself.
But here it is. Exposing the A and the OM and all that might feel really good in the moment, and it may well bust the A wide open.
However, if you want to save your marriage, you need to think this scenario through a bit more. How would YOU feel towards someone who did that to YOU? Would you feel all warm and fuzzy? I doubt it.
I'm not saying that exposure doesn't have its place. I think it does. BUT. (And this is a BIG BUT(T)! It must be done in a very controlled manner, with full acceptance of the consequences. Not to mention the real reason why you'd be doing it.
Your W has shown some movement towards you. It's natural to expect more and get frustrated.
Don't allow this frustration to derail all the work you've done.
If you expose, you will NOT be the cool, collected, all-together guy that she'd be a fool to leave. You'll be a hurt, vindictive, aggressive guy who didn't believe in his own qualities enough to chill out and let her come to you.
It will, in effect, make you look WEAK. That you had to play your hand. Don't do this unless your eyes are wide open, because it might very well just blow up in your face.
The embarrassment, shame, and anger that will come your way will be hard to sweep under the rug later on.
Just saying'......
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Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
