Glad your surgery went well! It seems it went so well that you're now painting, redecorating, etc. Not a moment to stand still, right?
I have incredible amounts of energy right now. I want to work out & go for a run, but I could tell it's not a good idea after running around w birthday dog yesterday. The time will come.
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Hmmm. The ex. Seems he wants to come clean about a lot of things. Seems to be a torrent of information. Ah the holidays, right?
hearing this stuff makes it so much easier for me to move away from it. Leave it in the past. Of course, I am sure he his hesitant to divulge everything, I think he is surprised how well I have handled it. He doesn't realize I am aware of a lot of it and have moved past it. He was shocked when I told him the furniture store called here when their order was in. I think he felt bad. He says he had blinders on. He also said he has made more mistakes in the past year to last a lifetime. I said, hopefully all of our lifetimes.
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Remember though - your life. Your needs. Your balance. If you need him to go so you can be alone, then you should tell him.
I thought of this last night. That's why I just slipped out for a little bit. Shoveling and taking dog for a walk. Very peaceful.
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Him remembering you eating in his truck? Why does that surprise you? That's when he saw you as you being you. Not anything else. i.e. when your real you shone through without a thought to anything else. People can be very attractive in those situations. I'm sure you have similar thoughts about when your ex was doing something and was focused on it to the point he didn't realize you were looking.
^^^^^^ that made me cry for some reason.
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Mighty that emotions for the whole family are all over the place right now. Likely will be a for a long time. The only thing that helps that is your balance. Seems odd, but you are the center of the stabilization effort and only you can become the balance for the family.
that made me laugh. Scary thought for all involved... Including society. Ha! No, I can do this!
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It seems that you need some alone time, and you may not want to do that again via surgery. I hope not anyway. But it may be a good idea to find a way and a time to be alone. If your ex wants to be back in the kids lives, maybe that would be a good time to let those three be alone together for maybe a weekend or something? While you go to a place (with a real spa?) and unplug your cell?
yeah, I guess you are right. I like trips to the library, coffee shop, parking near water- alone. Guess I hadn't really thought much about it. I did it a lot more after bd. but yeah, I need to keep at it. I have been on high alert w s17 24/7- even getting calls, emails, texts everyday at work. And going it alone does not help. I feel good and, ahem, confident in xh stepping up w this. And I am actually comfortable having him just hang here w kids while I leave. I was thinking it would also be a good way for him to ease his way back in w s17. Gradually and causally, but he will be firm with behavior. When s17 lashes out at him, he lets it roll & knows he had to get it out, but is taking a firm stance at what is/isn't acceptable. Whew! Same page, back up, right direction- hopefully!
Lt, I will look that up today. I ALS have the name of a holistic lady who helps with anxiety & stuff like that. I am feeling better knowing steps I. The right direction are being taken. Thank God!!
