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[labug]

I'll try to pull this out of the ditch.

labug,
OK. I don't get exactly what you are saying. I think I am understanding that you disagree with the "don't check up on him" thing. Is that the case?

I think I misunderstood this: "DO NOT CHECK UP ON ANYTHING THAT HAS THE POTENTIAL OF REALLY HURTING YOU EMOTIONALLY. You truly are better off not "knowing" anything for sure. You can become a total basketcase doing all of that.... I did, and was."
I didn't realize you meant checking up on HIM.
You're right, checking up will make you a basket case.

Also, what part of this was dropped in there?

The whole post was dropped in with no introduction or explanation, just a poorly formed question.

Do you mean that your M WASN'T a SSM because of you and that you didn't really act as I described?

It was a SSM and I did have many of the reactions you described.

I think the confusion is I wasn't asking for advice on what I should do but was asking to see what you had done up to this point.

We should probably let all this go and start over.