labug,

OK. I don't get exactly what you are saying. I think I am understanding that you disagree with the "don't check up on him" thing. Is that the case?

Also, what part of this was dropped in there?

"Love is action.

What are you doing to manage reactions to your past abuse?

My M was a SSM for a long time because of me. I acted much as you describe."

Do you mean that your M WASN'T a SSM because of you and that you didn't really act as I described?

Serenity NOW, Serenity NOW!!! LOL...

Me: 47
H: 41
S: 14
M: 19 years
T: 20 years