Staying Focused

[AJM]

Not only new counselors, but check the meds and the side effects. In teens they can be detrimental and need to be watched carefully. Much more so than with adults.

Glad your surgery went well! It seems it went so well that you're now painting, redecorating, etc. Not a moment to stand still, right?

Hmmm. The ex. Seems he wants to come clean about a lot of things. Seems to be a torrent of information. Ah the holidays, right?

Remember though - your life. Your needs. Your balance. If you need him to go so you can be alone, then you should tell him.

Him remembering you eating in his truck? Why does that surprise you? That's when he saw you as you being you. Not anything else. i.e. when your real you shone through without a thought to anything else. People can be very attractive in those situations. I'm sure you have similar thoughts about when your ex was doing something and was focused on it to the point he didn't realize you were looking.

hww? She won't understand any of it because she has no life experience to draw on to understand it. She compares to her own experiences and...comes up short. Likely won't ever understand it - poor thing


Keep in mind, Mighty that emotions for the whole family are all over the place right now. Likely will be a for a long time. The only thing that helps that is your balance. Seems odd, but you are the center of the stabilization effort and only you can become the balance for the family. It seems that you need some alone time, and you may not want to do that again via surgery. I hope not anyway. But it may be a good idea to find a way and a time to be alone. If your ex wants to be back in the kids lives, maybe that would be a good time to let those three be alone together for maybe a weekend or something? While you go to a place (with a real spa?) and unplug your cell?

I'm not a therapist, but that's something that seems to work for you.

AJ