Maybell, the frequency of R talks in the last week or so is not our usual pattern. We usually have one a week, or maybe every other week (between counseling sessions). During the S, they have been initiated primarily by me, but H has initiated every interaction we've had in the past week. I'm curious to see where this takes us.
One of the things that I used to value abt my H (prior to the past year or so) was how open he was. He's never been a "grunter" -- we used to have (and enjoy) long talks about our emotions, dreams, goals, etc. From his perspective, the R broke because I stopped engaging in those conversations with him, and he eventually stopped trying. In a way, I see his attempts to initiate them as a return to his "old self" -- the one that kept our M strong in the early years.
But, we're still going on dates when we don't talk abt the R, too.
