HP I've wrestled so much with exposure too. I've thought about exposing to OMW (and potentially ruin her family). I've thought about exposing to W's work. I've thought about covertly exposing there too (I think of this often though it is cowardly).
I'm sure - in my case it MAY have ended the A, but certainly ended our M/R. I know this is a double standard that I am holding myself to and maybe it is just prolonging the limbo.
Any of these would not make me feel better about myself. Airing our dirty laundry to others has never appealed to me and likely I would feel foolish and even more humiliated than I already do.
Maybe I'm too passive and this is what I get. But just as I work get wound up and think I'm going to go through with it, I talk myself down with thoughts of moral high ground and working toward my goals - blah blah.
It is painful to go through this every day (I have so much to be thankful for, but sorry 2014 was sh!t)
Keep up the positive fight
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Me-45 W-44 S21, S18, D15 T-27, M-21 BD Jan 2014 PA revealed March 2014 In-house separation - April 2015 I filed - Aug 2015 She moved out Oct 2015