Well I made it for the most part. At one point we realized one of the hot water heaters was broken. H was talking about how expensive they are to replace. Then we went in the garage to look at it. He says " I didn't mean to stress you". I said, with some tears " I know but I'm about to go to an IRS hearing next week to see how much I have to pay them and now the expense of this- it's just stressing me out."
He made a gesture not to stress it and then I said I'll figure it out. He asked if I wanted him to leave. I responded no ( probably a little too desperately). Then he just reached over and hugged me- first time in a couple of months with any contact. It was very nice.
We had a great meal and prepared things together. I made a sweet potato casserole for the first time ever, and he said it was good ( in a surprised tone- but that's fair- he's the cook between the two of us).
He played outside for awhile with S7. Then came inside. Demeanor seemed to change a bit- more contemplative. Our older kids decided to go to a movie and a few min later he said he was going to go home and go to sleep. I said really this early? And he said he hadn't been feeling well last couple of days. I said ok- both thanked each other for nice meal and off he went.
Of course my brain starts wondering...... Is he going to spend some time with someone else? I even thought about driving by his place.
Then thought about it- not going to help- doesn't really matter right now. He's a lost little boy that still has some work to do before he potentially finds his way home.


Me 41 H 40
M 20 T 23
S 19,16, 8 D 13
BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work
BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D
Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015
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