I was on my way over to see my son for a bit, and the wife asked for money I had promised her. She had previously mentioned she wanted to go out for some pre black Friday deals. I did something stupid I guess, and questioned her usage of the money I was going to giver her and that it was supposed to be money she desperately needed and not for black Friday deals. She got mad that I questioned her and things spiraled downward after that.
She was very angry and I was very, very calm. But it still was a bad scene. She said that her financial troubles were all my fault because I was the one who made her leave. The distance from the truth in that statement can't even be measured. I did everything I could to keep my marriage together. Everything.
I know that I can't bring logic to the irrational. But it still hurts that, even months after she walked out, that she is still angry at me for things that seem to be only in her head.
Here's my question to the vets: we have no real financial arrangement at the moment. She expects that she doesn't have to ask me for support and I tell her that all she needs to do is ask and i will do what I can; her reply is that I should just know it and hand it over. So, do I just start handing over money? Would that be conducive to a reparation of our relationship of show me to be weak and unworthy in her eyes?
