Went to a movie with my two oldest this morning. Big Hero 6. They loved it, I cried. A little. A big subtext of the movie is how two different characters process their grief and boy did it hit home. Really great film.
W picked a fight in the morning before we left. Asked if she could take $20 from my wallet to go to the store with. I djed last night (a really great set) so I had cash. I was upstairs and merely said "uhhhhhh...OK". And my hesitation brought out her anger. Said she hated feeling "like a junky looking for smack money" whenever she had to ask me for money. I tried not to take the bait but I guess I'm a bit out of practice, as W and I have barely interacted for weeks now. I didn't let it get out of hand. Just told her that we have a lot of issues to resolve with money, but that I'm always more than happy to pay for groceries. Pointed out that I usually buy them. She just spewed for a little while. I know she's just putting her guilt on me.
After the movie we got home and W was getting ready to go to thanksgiving. I packed an overnight bag for the kids and got all their snow gear together. W appreciated this. She asked if I was sure I didn't want to come. I told her no, than added that "it's not that I don't want to come, it's that I feel it's not right to." We stood there. Then she said "I don't know what to say....it looks like you want to talk." I said, no I don't want to talk, and walked away.
They just left. I'm going to some friends I haven't seen in awhile. I'll have a great day. It's just too bad.
M: 33 W: 33 M: 9 T: 10 3 S's: 8, 6 and 1.5 BD: 8/3/14 Living together
