Wife having emotional affair part 4

[HPoirot]

Great list. Yes focus on the good. Just don't push her at all. Not even a little bit. Don't bring up OM and you don't think about him. You have better things to do. And don't expect she knows where her heart truly lies. That is mind reading and does not serve you b/c when she acts differently than you think she should (b/c you think she knows where her heart truly lies) then you will be disappointed and you are likely then to get angry, sad, or otherwise fall off track. Stay out of her head and stay in your "sandbox." Don't assume anything like you did here...

I know they are going to meet again when he comes back in town. And I think that is why she is holding back from us. Like I have read before they always want one last good bye to OM. To put an end to it for closure. She knows where her heart truly lies. Other wise she would not be doing or saying all the things lately.

That's a lot of assumptions. I know b/c I do this too everyday and I cause myself unneeded pain when I do. (I'm telling you this to enforce my not doing the same.) So, when you're typing here... note when you say "I think" or when you assume what's in your W's mind or are negative writing about your sitch. Then rewrite the sentence to a fact (something your W did) or something positive. It helps me do better when I remember to do that.

Good luck.