Married young, W had affair w/ coworker Pt.2

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W is moving out on the 1st. We discussed the final distribution of assets and debt and reached an agreement we both can live with. I'll be working with the atty to draft up an agreement next week.

After her saying a couple days ago she was changing her approach to partying to keep a lower profile, W went to party at the strip club with her new group of friends last night. I can't wait to see her and her 18-year-old-frat-boy lifestyle move out of the house. She is going to live with some of her new party friends for a couple months then find her own place. She'll be boxing up and storing some stuff in the house until late January. She told me not to change the locks on the house since she still has stuff here, but I said that was going to be my choice as soon as she moves out and she would need to call or text me to schedule a time to come over to get her stuff.

The BGPs are starting to kick in as W is seeing her credit card balance grow from her undeservedly high lifestyle and the paychecks from the new job aren't coming when she expected them to.

W's two best (and only) supportive girlfriends are about to move out of state in the next couple months. Her former best girlfriend and maid of honor, who renounced her friendship with W based on her new lifestyle, is now pregnant with her first child. W doesn't have a clue. I talked with this friend and she was in tears about how sad it is that she no longer calls my W first with big news like this. She said she plans to call W to tell her before it becomes public on social media. Seems like everyone else's life is moving forward and W's has moved backwards 10 years. I'm sure these things will shock her when the chit-hits-the-fan (as Starsky often says) in the next couple months.

One point during our convo today W and I talked about what it would take to reconcile the M. She explained one of her friend's H cheated and she sees how stressful it is with her friend holding the A over his head, verifying his activities, and being paranoid constantly. W acknowledged reconciliation would take a lot of hard work to rebuild trust and she said plainly that she isn't willing to do what it would take to save our M. I know this is just what she feels now, but there is no guarantee her feelings will change.

Happy thanksgiving everyone!