Just read back over some of the links Cadet sent to me at the start -
My judgement and thoughts were challenged today by a friend - I know she is looking out for me and my wellbeing and interests, but it made me question if I am being a mug, or just not accepting that my marriage is over and that he is sane and was just unhappy - as IL suggested to me.
Re-reading the posts I still believe my h is having a MLC and confirmed to me that I want to try and be his lighthouse.
I know I need to give him space to go on his journey and give myself space to reset, grow and regain my power that I freely gave to him.
I do not contact him, I do not ask anything of him, I do not expect anything from him. I have told him that I will always be here if he needs me. When he contacts me I do not talk r, I answer short and keep on point. All the things I have been advised to do here.
So my question is: Do I stay dark while I am away, let him contact me if/when he wants to or do I contact him periodically, saying hi, shining the light.
My current plan is to be away for around 10 months -
Even if we don't make it through this together, he will still need a friend if/when he wakes and I want to make sure he knows he has one.
