So she has rationalized her lying and clearly has no problem going back on what she says to me now b/c she "cares about me" and wants to protect me from her truth (so she can feel better).
The next time she says she wants to "protect" you from her truth, look squarely into her eyes and calmly say...
"W, it is not for you to decide. I can handle the truth and I have a fairly good idea of it. When you trot that out, it insults my intelligence. Don't do that again. I am strong. Let me tell you what I know is happening. You are still in contact with OM and plan out your rendezvouses with him so you two can have sex. As you know, it is incredibly disrespectful to me and to the marriage because you are SEEKING your emotional needs from other man, not your husband. Then you come here acting "normal" and expect me to play "happy" family along with that charade. What makes you think that I am okay with all of this??! This is not cool at all."
I would hope that you will USE this humongous truth dart the very next time W brings up "protecting you" from the truth comment. Do you have the cojones to say this to W's face? Your choice.
