Welcome to the board, there are many of us that have gone through this and are going through this before.

I'm going to paraphrase the first thing that was told to me

DETACH yourself from the situation and Get a Life. Focus on improving yourself, and no matter what the outcome, you will be better off.

Me: 35
Her: 33
D : 16
S : 9
Together: 14 years
Married: 12
She left 4/14/2014
Separated: 5/25/2014
OM Confirmed 7/2014
She filed 8/7/2014
I Filed 10/21/2014
Divorce final 2/12/2015