Thanks for your input. I agree it's sad Peter. She doesn't see reconciliation as an option at all. I also agree it's not ok what she's doing now, and I'm not going to purport to my kids that it is.
Wonka, it's emotional blackmail at it's worst I would have to agree. I too have passed on my concerns to her doctor, the police, and her family.
Quick update from me, I've been doing really well and keeping very busy. Feel good about myself, been getting lots of GAL in, and have really been enjoying my kids. My W also fails 3/4 of the time in her activities with the kids. I'm seeing them often when it's not my time, as I coach them in their activities.
My W again told me she did not want to live and was going to kill herself. I told her family and called the police and mental health unit. She has an appointment with her doctor and will hopefully be referred to a psychiatrist. I'm tired of her family not believing me. I hope she gets the help she required to function with the kids. If not, I'm going to need to seek increased custody if she is not safe. I absolutely despise letting her fail when my kids are at risk. It doesn't feel right. When they call me or ask for things when they are with her, I feel I need to respond. I've moved ahead with counselling for the kids, who have witnessed mom threaten suicide a few times now, and that seems to be going well.
A few things, I think my W is a bit bipolar, has a bit of borderline personality disorder, and is depressed. Much of this stems from her inability to function with the kids, her social anxiety, and her mental state. I'm sad for her and the kids. I can't understand going through life everyday wanting to die or thinking my kids will be better off without me. That's what she tells me all the time. Incredibly sad, and I feel fortunate that relatively speaking, I'm pretty stable
All is good in the house of Dev. Changes are a coming. I'm controlling my life, my interactions, and being consistent and true to myself. I couldn't be happier right now.
