Happy Birthday to Marc! Happy Thanksgiving to all of you!
No making excuses. Your family needs to be "Solution Focussed". No motivation? How about some consequences?
Today I posted a story about giving independence to your child. It was NOT aimed at you (rather - at my sister) but I think you should read it & think about it.
Staying at home with no motivation will make him unmotivated, possibly depressed.
Encouraging him and not bailing him out will give him the opportunity to make a success of his life. That will conquer depression.
No more excuses, Mish. It's a long standing behavior in your life. But is it what you want for Marc?