In my sitch... my W texted me... "will you pick up the phone if I call in the next 10 minutes?"

She had been texting and calling me alot after a set a boundary with her.

Vets here suggested I respond... "What is the nature of your call?"

That hit my W hard. She mentioned it when she called as being so businesslike. A big change in our communications that set the tone for everything after that... We are not friends while you're in an A.

If she texts you about your talk.. you could use something like that.


Me: 44
W: 45
S: 11
Married: 15
Together: 18
BD: 9/29/2014
OM discovered: 10/16/2014
I left her behind: 12/14/2014