But I started to realize that while, yes, my H should've stood up for me, I'm a grown woman and if I was so offended, I should've said something myself and not relied on my H to white knight for me.
I disagree with this. They're his parents and the onus is on him to tell them that you're his wife and he won't tolerate that kind of disrespect. The person whose parents are being unfair/unkind/whatever need to set the boundary, not the spouse. People don't respond the same to their children vs "an outsider"; to really sink in, it needs to be the relative.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
