Wife having emotional affair part 4

[HPoirot]

Hey 3kids. I know this hurts. Try to focus on the good things she said...

"your my husband"
"He is not somebody I want to spend the rest of my life with."
" I said, I thought you ended it with him. She said I did.."

So it's may not be what you think. She could want to tell you how conflicted she is. It's all just mind reading and you just don't have mental energy for that.

The fact is, it means nothing has changed... Your W is still conflicted... still trying to make a good choice... and she still wants to connect with you just doesn't trust if she should. So, keep being the better choice. DO NOT keep brining up the OM. Just be bigger than him... dismiss him from your mind. When you really start feeling this way, your W may see this... you as the more solid and secure choice. I make the same mistake constantly. We both have to stop... jealously and anger is not attractive to our Ws.