Thanks again for posting. On the I/c thing she is a life coach so no confidential lines crossed. W has had problems with sex since first child born and has various problems with her body at the moment but has a friendship with a bi polar alcoholic she works with which May have developed into a P/A The life coach is adamant the my W is not in any type of E/A or P/A but has drifted into a friendship with this guy who she thinks she can help. I remain open minded at the moment but would nt be surprised.
I have had many many faults but now I have been forced to look at them and I am addressing them. It's not easy but when I look back my W put up with a lot.
I was never a bad person but at the same time I could have been so much better.
I completely agree that if we were ever to reconcile it is a joint venture and it's one I would love to try as I believe I am a far better person for this experiance
I do believe my W was very unhappy and the issue was not just the marriage but her life in general. She found an outlet through volunteering but it took over her life. She meet a lot of people there lived a life that I believe she envied and she looked to her own life as not the life she wanted. She talks about being in a fog and thinks she's having a MLC or some sort of breakdown.
I have detached but have been doing the 80% returns. When I do this she SEEMS to back away.
As discussed with life coach , I do not want tTHIS person back, I would love to work on the marraige with my old W , who would commit to making it work.
