If I ran into him in the building, I would simply pull him aside and quietly tell him to leave my W the F*** alone. No violence, no drama. It's my workplace after all.
Originally Posted By: Train
Rzrback, Telling OM to "leave your W alone" is a waste of energy and breath. If he's having an EA - or a PA - with a married woman, chances are he doesn't have much of a moral compass ... or, at least, if he DOES have one, he isn't being guided by it right now.
Rzr,
Don't do this; Train is correct. Trust me, I've been there and done it; confronted both OM's and one of them in person. It did stop the contact, but in the end, it really didn't change anything. The way I did it could have landed me in jail; I got lucky and let it go from that point!
Yes, you might feel better for saying what you feel you need and getting it off your chest, and you might even get a "rush" if the OM is a wuss and you get the intimidation factor going. But as Train said, it will get back to her and all she will view it as is you "being a brute" and harassing her "friend"!
Also consider if he doesn't back down, it could get heated an violent, whether you want it to or not.
Just my two cents from someone who did confront and in the end the results didn't matter anyway!
Az
Me: 44 X WAW/MLC: 42 Kids: S21, D11 BD: July 2013 (ILYBNILWY) EAx2: Busted 1 OCT 2013; 25 Mar 2014 Status: Divorcing & Done! Waiting to be final (Nov 2014?) & glad it's finally over!
