Thanks for the words of encouragement. I'm doing the best i can to be cordial without being a doormat. A fine line for sure. It's early, so obviously i haven't seen any change in her stance, but it does make it easier for me when I'm able to control my mood around her.
My son is obviously not happy with the situation, but he is my first priority, and he knows that. He's the the one keeping me on track. I know I'll be happy again someday one way or another, but so far that tunnel seems too long to let the light through.
I've almost finished reading DB, and DR should be here by tomorrow. Again, I'm thankful for this forum. I'm sure I'd be spinning my tires if i hadn't found it.