New to DB - Need Help! Pt 2

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I started listening to a book on CD last night. I can't say the name, but it contains the words "man" and "superior" in the title. The book gets pretty deep, and is heavily influenced by Hindu philosophy. A good portion of it is how a man can achieve true emotional intimacy with his woman. It's amazing how much of what I have listened to so far dovetails with the DR and DB concepts, at least from a male perspective.

The passage I listened to this morning was really fortuitous, considering the events of last night. I can't do it justice in this post, but basically it centered around how a woman in many ways needs her man to be present during her emotional storms, but not affected by them. It fits nicely with the idea of detachment; of being able to go through these times with her, but without being swept up in them, without fixing, analyzing or trying to resolve them.

It's during these times of the day that I feel the most at peace. If I may get mystical for a moment, I've always felt that 2014 was going to be a year of great change; I just didn't know what that change would be. I can feel myself being deeply transformed by my experiences this year. The changes are for the better; I'm excited about where I'm going in life. I can see that I'm much closer to being the kind of person I always wanted to be. The only question is whether my marriage can or should survive this transition. I'm not always sure it should. Maybe shedding this old relationship will be a necessary part of shedding the baggage and pain of my past life. Then again, maybe not. Only time will tell. Still working on letting go of my wife, and of the future that hasn't happened yet. I need to stop putting this on a timeline.