I cannot imagine why people have to trot out that fatuous expression 'These things happen'
Would they say it in the following circumstances?
My husband just got run over and died from his injuries
My house just got burned down and I lost all my possessions
Honestly I do not think so. It sounds like 1) it was no-one's responsibility and 2) we just need to accept it.
The break up of a marriage or long relationship is very very hard, and in many cases un-necessary, rarely are people happier, unless there were long term and persistent issues of incompatibility. The MLC whim, while it seems compelling to the drama queen at its centre, is pretty destructive.
I remember a very wise guy I know talking about when his father left his mother for another woman. He said that he started to count the number of people who had been adversely affected by this decision and that then he got to 50 he stopped counting.
Did the new relationship last? no, were any of the parties happier? No . . . . but of course 'these things happen'
I think the waste and stupidity of MLC makes me crosser, as I get further away from it - Not angry, just annoyed by the destruction. It is like mindless vandalism. It takes time to build and no time at all to torch it.
My xh husband (still deep in MLC 9 years on) has admitted that he had no idea of the hurt and pain it would cause everyone. And no, he still isn't happy, poor guy. But others come through it - Look at Mighty's husband. Some wake up and try to put things right, Always worth hanging in there, but as Job says 'Do not put your own life on hold'
