Did you ever did any MC after you gave up your addiction? Some people hold on to resentment and grudge.
Did your W ever had a chance to express herself openly about how did she manage to stay with you during that owe full time?
And, do you have any idea of what your W is looking for in this OM, what he is giving her that she is willing to end her M and knows that she is damaging someone else's M?
Did you set up some goals you think you can accomplish at least before she files for D?
I know it hurts, I am hurting too... but until you decide it's done, you can always have hope.
