Because then I'm not really "trying" to bust the D, I guess, or rebuild our M. I'm just letting the D happen. But that's really the only option available to me at this point.

Hmm... yep, I do have that same problem (want to explain everything to others to show I am right).

So I know what's holding me back. Fear of judgment from others, fear of feeling like I gave up on the M if I believe that maybe this is for the best/he was not a good partner, feeling stuck wondering why he's doing this. How do I get past those things? I feel like I don't know what to "do" (or do I know and I just don't realize it?)


Me:30 H:29, no kids
T:12, M:4 (when D was final)
12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore"
6/14: Separated (I move)
1/15: H filed for D
5/15: D final