Wow, we're a lot alike, Calibri! I did this too. Hey, H, by the way, you should totally work on stuff because it'll help you down the road and you don't want to take ugly, heavy baggage into future relationships so you should totally work on it.
Lol, I did that too. Great move! NOT.
Btw, wrt to IC... My IC was my MC before H stopped coming, and he told me while my H was still coming to MC and we both still said we wanted the M that my H had fallen out of love with me as though he had turned gay and that I needed to just go out and find myself a new man because I was really attractive and wouldn't have any trouble doing that. H was sitting right next to me.
C's are human and have their own thoughts, biases, and goals. Speech is an imprecise thing. We all are biased towards hearing what we want or expect to hear and so even if you and your H we're seeing the same IC he would likely take away different ideas from you. It's part of detaching, validating, and honoring his individuality, recognizing the truth in that.
What are you thankful for?
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
