(and btw, there HAVE been people here who were willing to deal with taking their spouses back after they had a child with their affair partner - mostly I remember men who were willing to take their wives back and raise the child as their own. Me personally, I can't imagine having the constant reminder, and having to "share" my spouse while he co-parents with a former affair partner, but that's me - some people are better able to put that aside for the sake of their spouse and the child.
