Hi Pink 17. I would also urge some caution about the locks. Best not to do any drastic things that will inflame the situation right now.
It is still very early days for you both. And whilst he is saying 'that's it for us etc.' and I'm sure that is what he 'believes' he wants right now - he is probably in affair fog/fantasy land.
And if she lives in Paris - that's a heck of a long way away - much like my H and his OW. But let's remember - he and she may be 'living the dream' right now. But their R has only existed in an affair 'bubble' thus far. Reality will gradually intrude, and if this is like most A's, their R won't survive.
Do you know the stats? Around 70% of M's survive A's. Whilst only around 5% of A's end up as M's and of those M's around 75% end in divorce. Those are dismal stats if you are having an A - and it is all very much in favour of M's.
But time and patience are so important. Things need to run their course....as people say. You have to go t-h-r-o-u-g-h it, there's no other way. And the best way to survive going through it is to work on the things you can control - you, and your life!
Toots :-)
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
